Monday, September 24, 2007
So yesterday was the first official no tv day. It went pretty well. My 7 year old Max turned on the tv once, while being reminded of the ban responded with the classic, "Awwww!" Luckily yesterday we had plenty to do. School days are actually easier to deal with no tv because the boys aren't home to watch it anyway, but today with the rain it may be a little difficult. Oh well, I have to stick with it so they will not be so lazy. I just don't know how I am going to handle 4 more weeks of soccer with a child who does not want to try. I just wish he would try! I have a new motto or chant for myself for mothering it is "CQ" which for Calm and Quiet. Whenever I feel frustrated and feel like screaming I just chant to myself calm and quiet, calm and quiet. It is how the Savior was and is, and that is what I am supposed to be emulating. Most people don't respond well to screaming so why would my kids, besides they are so used to it, there is no difference. So after they get used to me being "CQ" when I do yell (hopefully infequently) they will be suprised and know I mean business then actually listen. I really hope I can stick with this!
Saturday, September 22, 2007
Well It has been over a year since my last post. A lot has been happening! That pregnancy, well I was right it resulted in a girl! Sophia Vera is her name and she is a wonderful sweet angel! She is 9 months old today! She is absolutely perfect! My boys on the other hand...just kidding they are wonderful also. Babys are just well easier. I have a 71/2 year old and and an almost 5 year old. My oldest said mom I want to take guitar lessons! For a year he begged for guitar lessons, so I finally said okay you understand that you will have to practice everyday? He said yes I want to play the guitar! So I have a brother who plays very well and he is teaching him, so far so good. A year later I am constantly fighting with my son to get him to practice! He groans and cries and I just didn't realize just how hard it would really be. He is so unmotivated to do anything except watch TV. He doesn't like to do anything he'll have to exert energy for. Also my younger son is the the same way. He wanted to sign up for soccer with his friend, but we missed the signup deadline and paid a late fee, 90 bucks later he just walks around the field pouting! I understand that 4 year olds don't understand money and follow through, but what could we be doing wrong here? The other kids on the team run and play and atleast try, no he won't even try at all! AHHHHH Also all they do is whine about everything, what meals we eat which places we go...I feel like Eore from Pooh Bear and there is a black cloud over our home. I don't want to complain I just don't know what to do! I try to be positive with them and tell them that once they try and learn how to do things it will be fun, to no avail! Gosh when I was a kid I spent almost every waking moment outside running and jumping and biking and just having fun with whatever kids there were to play with. I just don't know what to do with them. We are trying banning the TV. For the whole house! We'll see how that goes and I will post our progress.I feel like I am screaming all the time, no one listens when I speak normal, quiet, or loud. But I still scream, I know I am part of the problem! Probably a bad example! Any suggestions would be welcome!